Reblog this with the pettiest reason you’ve unfollowed someone
im going to have a stroke
Instead try…
Person A: You know… the thing
Person B: The “thing”?
Person A: Yeah, the thing with the little-! *mutters under their breath* Como es que se llama esa mierda… THE FISHING RODAlso consider:
Person A: yeah, she’s eaten bread from a lot of ovens
Person B: what
Person A: do you not say that in english
i’ve got a real issue with the whole fiction =/= reality thing :/// fiction DOES affect real people’s lives. this argument does not make toxic things presented in fiction okay??? why do you stand by such a gross argument? people use this shit to justify their p*do and r*pe fics
*DEEP BREATH*
Alright Anon, let’s clear one thing up before I go into detail, because I do want to make this clear! You do not have to support anything you see in fiction. If something does not sit well with you or offends you, you 1000% can just stay away from it, criticise it, w/e. But the fact is, fiction does not equal reality. That is why it is called fiction.
There are many things I am disgusted by. There are many things that legitimately make me go into shut-down mode. These things can be themes in fiction. But they are not real. And I do my best to avoid these things. At the end of the day, it’s everyone’s responsibility to do this to the best of their ability. It is not really anyone else’s responsibility to look out for you on the internet. You can definitely ask people to tag things you don’t want to see, but they are not in charge of you or your well being. You can definitely create a safe space for you and others, but you cannot force others to abide by your exact morality when it comes to fictional matters. That all may sound harsh, but I honestly don’t think there’s another way to put it.
If something is actually against the law, even when presented in fiction, then absolutely go and file a report with an authoritative power that can do something about it. That shit doesn’t need to exist. But if it is not against the law, no matter how badly it upsets you, you technically cannot dictate what others create or consume in a fictional medium. You can offer criticism. You can speak out against it. You can have whatever opinion you have. But it’s not within anyone’s rights, unless if you are a member of authority, to dictate others.
I really do hate the slippery slope argument, but if we were to outlaw everything that was deemed problematic or toxic by everyone, we would eventually have literally 0 content, as everyone finds something problematic or toxic.
Fiction is intended to be many things, including a space for people to be able to explore things that would not go over well in reality.
I’m sorry, but saying that fiction does equal reality causes more harm than good. By saying this, you are making it harder for individuals that already have issues discerning fiction from reality to tell the difference between the two, as you are simply backing up the fallacy they are under the impression of for whatever reason. While it isn’t necessarily fair, the overwhelming majority of people can tell fiction apart from reality in most circumstances, and therefore, we cannot operate under the argument that fiction = reality, as it is simply not true.
Disclaimer: I am absolutely not saying that you have to be okay with anything you see in fiction. You are entitled to your own opinion and your right to express that opinion. All I am saying is that I wish that people would stop saying that fiction does equal reality.
(Facebook: It’s Okay To Be Childfree)
“Congratulations – you just made a conversation about salad and hamburgers about the struggle of childbirth.”
TBH Parentfriends, I’m probably tired of looking at pictures of your kid every other day, so I just hid you from my Newsfeed, because what’s important to you isn’t all that important to me. Sorry, not sorry, no one’s feelings got hurt.
But if you start mommyjacking my posts, I will 100% make you cry into your keyboard.
#how unsatisfied are these people with parenthood that they have to validate themselves like this
Has France taught America how to speak french yet ?
wait….are any americans aware that the cia overthrew the democratically-elected premier of iran in 1953 because he wouldn’t concede to western oil demands….and how that coup was the reason for the shah’s return to power, the iranian revolution, and the resulting fundamentalist dictatorship…..like, america literally dissolved iranian democracy and no one knows about it???
No. No we don’t know about it.
Americans aren’t told this shit.
The only thing we’re taught about any Middle Eastern country in school is that 1) the region exists 2) it’s where The War is happening and 3) Muslim people live there. That’s it. Maybe if you’re lucky you’ll get into the Hammurabi Code and some early Babylonian stuff but American schools seem to think that if it happened outside Europe and before the colonial period, or makes America look bad and isn’t about A Very Watered Down Version of What Slavery Was, it’s not important.
Info on this is almost notoriously hard to find. It’s not in any texts on American and Russian involvement in the Middle East during the Cold War that I can find. You have to specifically look for a book about the Shah’s return to power, and even then you’d be hard pressed to find a book like that at your local bookstore. Once you get into some higher level college courses you might know about it, but the people who can afford those are more likely to already be indoctrinated into a certain Way of Thinking (read: they’re racist as shit) by the time they get there. And it’s almost like you have to know about it beforehand if you want to find information on it.
The only reason I knew about it is because there’s a thirty second summary of the event in Persepolis. Those thirty seconds flipped my entire worldview.
“All the Shah’s Men” by Stephen Kinzer is a good, accessible text for people who want to know more about this.
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I had to explain literally this to one of my co-workers, who is so fuckin racist against Middle Eastern people it’s insane.
She’s 60. She never heard of this.
As I was explaining this and how, during the Regan years, we funded Osama Bin Laden to fight against Russia, leading to the destruction of much of the infrastructure in the region, one of the plant workers came in to get his badge fixed.
He works in the quality control lab. He served 15 years active duty in the Army. Super smart guy, has a masters in chemistry and another masters in biology, raises saltwater fish in his spare time for sale, has the saltwater aquarium setup of the gods. Raises rare corals too, some of which he donates to be used in re-seeding reefs around the world, but that’s a side tangent.
And he listened for a minute, then nodded and said “Yeah. I was there during that. I helped train people to fight. They wanted us to help them build schools and hospitals, after, but we were only interested in them as cannon fodder. Left the whole area in ruins. I wasn’t surprised when they hated us for it later. Told people then it would happen. We let them know then that they were only valuable to America as expendable bodies. Why wouldn’t they resent us for that?”
And she just looked floored.
“So…” She started, after a few minutes. “What do you think of Trump?”
“I hate him. He’s a coward and he’s going to get good people killed.” He didn’t even blink. “
She looked back and forth between us for a second, and then asked how I knew all this.
“I research things.” I said. “Google is great.” He nodded enthusiastically.
And she just sat there for a second and then said, really quietly, “I didn’t know.”
She lived through it.
American schools don’t teach you any of this sort of thing.
I can absolutely confirm. Public school education in South Carolina did not teach the realities of colonialism. It sure as hell didn’t teach us about racism. I had an AP Us History teacher named Ms. Outlaw. I was doing badly in school because of survivor stuff and trans stuff (in the 90’s in South fucking Carolina!!!!) and I was really feeling isolated. Being any stripe of queer just wasn’t spoken of, but I heard it was actually talked about in History of Minority Groups, so I signed up for the ELECTIVE class. The same woman that in my AP US History class framed the civil war as entirely economic and claimed that the sole purpose of the emancipation proclamation was to weaken the southern economy and thus help the north win the war–which TOTALLY WASN’T ABOUT SLAVERY–looked me dead in the fucking eye while acknowledging in the history of minority groups class that the civil war was, indeed, specifically about slavery. I was the only white kid in that class. That was my senior year of high-school and the internet was still not what it is today, so my awakening to the realities of white supremacy was slow and jerky, but it really started that day. Other things happened growing up that clued me in, but it wasn’t until the exact same teacher represented two diametrically opposed views of American history while making pointed eye contact with me that I picked up on what was obvious to every black student in that class.
Furthermore during my stint on a special forces ODA and in all the training leading up to it I learned all about SF’s history as being an instrument specifically for Cold-War era proxy warfare. That was our specific task before the war in Afghanistan and Iraq: to train indigenous people to fight our enemies in our stead, KNOWING that they would be abandoned once we were done with them, just like the Degar people (who we still call the Montagnards) in Vietnam. Most Americans don’t know about them in spite of a resettlement effort taken on by many Vietnam era special forces personnel to have them relocated to the united states (primarily in North Carolina).
Tldr; Americans are taught a very propagandistic version of history that focuses on “American exceptionalism” to the exclusion of major world events–especially ones that make us look bad.
I don’t blame anyone not from the US for not knowing how the US propaganda machine works. But we would not have so many proud police and military loving Americans if most of its people were educated of its atrocities. That doesn’t instill pride. Except in sadists, which will always exist. But white Americans in particular need to believe the are more worthy and better than others not like them. US needs to maintain that lie in all areas, including media and education. I learned about Iran but not until social theory in college. Not an accessible way of learning. This also contributes to the conflicts between the radical left, the liberal left and moderates, conservatives etc. radical left people have learned about American atrocities and benefits of living in America and conservatives and far right wing use those things to bolster our “superiority”. History is used as a political tool to be told to others in a way to benefit those in power. Which is horrendous.
Able Bodied Feminism Is…
Thinking “nobody should be forced to carry a disabled child to term” is a good argument for abortion rights.
Not realizing that widespread forced sterilization of disabled women is still happening.
Upping Margaret Sanger despite her being a racist and a supporter of Eugenics.
Thinking that the only influence that Frida Kahlos disabilities had on her art was putting her in a lot of pain.
Not considering disability to be as important axis of oppression as race or gender.
Making fun of “frivolous white girls” when they are asking for a lot of disability accommodations for work or school.
Talking about how brave of a woman Anne Sullivan was while ignoring her disability and Helen Kellers own achievements.
Seeing transgender as being chiefly a medical issue and being shitty to trans women as a result in order to “protect mentally well cis girls spaces”.
Insisting that women don’t deserve to be babied because “we aren’t handicapped, we can do things on our own”.
Glossing over how race and disability intersect, because ableism isn’t seen as being important.
Glorifying the achievements of women who subject their disabled children to cures and treatments that the child doesn’t actually want.
Not making discussions of consent accessible to disabled young girls and boys.
Putting zero effort into bringing sex education to more special ed classrooms in the US and beyond.
Insulting old feminists by taunting them with images of canes, walkers, and being crotchety witches.
Disrespecting housewife jobs when it is often the only work disabled women can do consistently. Same with sex work.
Not including disabled women in body positive activities.
Medicalizing bi and asexuality.
Making fun of MRAs by calling them autistic,insane, or suggesting they have small penises.
funy relateable aritst comix!!A concept:
A-spec people no longer need to worry about whether they are going to be put on dangerous medications to make their orientation more “normal.”
This has never fucking happened. Shut the fuck up oh my god!
A concept: aspec people stop making other vunerable aspec children worried and scared about things that never have happened and never will happen! Stop! S t o p!
This post is 1000000x more dangerous than any post that says “asexuals aren’t LGBT” like holy fuck! Aces aren’t just afraid to be themselves because of actual outside pressures anymore, they’re afraid because their community tells them “We could be treated like gay people next!!!” with no fucking evidence.
“Dangerous medication” you’ve got to be FUCKING kidding me. Stop outright lying to ace kids. Stop making ace kids terrified when theres nothing like this to be afraid of!
This post kids is refering to Hypoactive Sexual Desire Disorder. But this “asexual forced to take dangerous medication uwu” shit would never happen because HSDD refers to “chronic or ongoing lack of interest in sex, to the point that it causes her personal distress or problems in her relationships.”
-Since you all often say “But ace people can be interested in sex/ok in sexual relationships sometimes!” or “Asexual isn’t a synonym for low libido!” (which I disagree with but whatever) many ace people. Wouldn’t even be able to be catagorized in this disorder.
-YOU must go in and complain how a low sex drive is negatively affecting you. If it doesn’t bother you because you ID as ace, then they can’t Make you do fucking anything. If you don’t feel like this is a chronic problem hurting your ability to function in relationships or your ability to just fucking have fun, then nobody at the psychiatrist’s fucking cares and is going to try to help “fix” you.
-Obviously you must be an adult to be diagnosed, they’re not going to be concerned about a kid having this disorder because kids develop sexual desire at different rates. So any concern that a parent could force one to be treated for this disorder is. Factually incorrect.
-Worst case scenario if a parent dragged an ace kid to therapy, the therapist would just talk about anxiety with them and give them info about sexuality. They wouldn’t be able to diagnose or medicate them at all. Also, many psychology books and courses and even the DSM now actually include a tidbit about asexuality, so if a kid walked in like “My dad made me come here but really I just ID as asexual” your psychologist would be like “Ok, nothing to do here then! You aren’t in distress so I can’t do anything about this!”
-In fact, not only does this disorder not apply to kids, this disorder is usually diagnosed in older adults, especially post-menopausal women
-If for some reason an ace person who was insecure or didn’t know they even could ID as ace went to the therapist complaining about their low sex drive, medication wouldn’t just be handed to them like candy. Treatment for HSDD would be shit that honestly? Would benefit anyone. They would want to have joint therapy with you and a partner if you have one to assess any conflicts that may be residing there. They would see if you have any anxiety or self esteem issues that are causing a low sex drive. They would work on communication and non-sexual intimacy. Worst case scenario, this shit just wouldn’t work, but that literally isn’t the psychologist’s fault that you have this society given expectation of libido and that you haven’t heard of asexuality or don’t identify with it.
Oh and, my favorite part of the wikipedia article about HSDD? The part where they say they may give sexuality education because “sometimes problems occur because people have unrealistic perceptions about what normal sexuality is and are concerned that they do not compare well to that, and this is one reason why education can be important.” Gee man a lot of ace people could sure use that and realize its perfectly normal to not want to fuck people constantly.
This disorder is very broad, very common, very culturally and socially sensitive, and already criticized because the criteria for “normal” sex drive is so hard to actually pinpoint since the human sex drive is so diverse and even subject to change because of outside factors, age and mental and physical health (which again, a lot of ace people need to realize this too). If anything HSDD is a starting point, just saying “Ok you’re upset because you have a low sex drive, now we have a million different directions we could go because we need to find what social, cultural, psychological or physical cause there is for it.” And asexuality. Is absolutely one of those directions.
-And last, yes, they would test for biological issues and medicate them as necessary. But if you’re really just ace, there would be no medical issues and they would have nothing to medicate??? The most common medication is testosterone for low T men and HRT for post menopausal women. Obviously not going to happen to a healthy asexual person?? Like jfc.
So yeah, stop lying to asexuals and making kids fear being put on a lab table and injected with Dangerous Sex Medication when nothing remotely of the sort happens. GOD. DAMN.
not to mention that the specific medication being discussed (flibanserin) is 1) not currently covered by most insurance companies, 2) is prohibitively expensive without insurance (the cheapest is 824$ for a month’s supply at kroger), and 3) if it is covered by insurance, it will be in the highest copay tier for years to come (so 50-150$ a month, depending on your insurance plan).
aspec kids are not at risk of being put on this medication (it’s not indicated for anyone under the age of 18), nor is anyone who has not been diagnosed with hsdd, which specifically cannot be diagnosed if the person is asexual.
please stop fear mongering.
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