gnostic-heretic:

what’s infuriating is that people with an agenda that is political and discriminatory in nature keep purposefully twisting what trans people are saying, again and again. 
you don’t have to date a trans person whose genitals you’re not attracted to. no one in their right mind is saying that you have to have sex with a pre-op trans person. in fact you don’t have to date anyone. your bodily autonomy is respected. you’re allowed to reject whoever you want for whatever reason. 
are there some people who have used this excuse to imply those things and be abusive? yes. but i don’t think it’s necessary to discuss why using an entire class of people as a scapegoat for the abuse of some is disgusting and discriminatory. implying that all trans people, especially trans women, are abusive and rapists is disgusting and discriminatory.

what this is actually all about, explained in very plain words:

1. there’s a widespread knowledge, among lesbian and gay trans people, about the fact (and don’t even try to deny it) that the cis lesbian and gay community don’t view us as part of the community, but rather as external elements of disturbance that are there to infiltrate “their spaces”, trick them into having sex with us (reminds you of something?)… there’s an underlying feeling of sexual repulsion that lingers when we enter said “spaces”, even when we’re doing nothing sexual in nature. it’s in the eyes of people. it’s in the way they talk to us. sometimes (and i speak from personal experience) gay trans people willingly isolate themselves from the gay and lesbian community because we feel like we’re not welcome there- this means no safety net, and no environment where we can be safely out. 
2. when you try to date and get rejected as an undesirable pariah and subsequently asked about your genitals over and over, it’s dehumanizing. this is not to say that anyone *has to date* you specifically. it’s a matter of- after being told- not “sorry, i’m not into you” but “sorry, not into dicks” over and over, you start feeling as if people really do see you as just a dick (or a vulva, in the case of trans men). do i need to explan why this is bad?
   a cis person is, maybe, going to be told “sorry, i’m not into women/men”, but this still recognizes your full humanity. “not into dicks” does not. 
   maybe you’re rejecting us because you’re not into genitals, but would it cost a lot to not remind us that something that causes us grief and distress in day to day life enough already is also the only thing you see when you see us, instead of a whole person? you don’t need to justify rejection. it’s not something you need to say, ever.  if your reason is this reason, specifically, i would strongly advise you to follow this advice. 
3. sometimes y’all cis people don’t notice how rude, and exhausting it is when, before we even have a chance to become friends, you need to specify that you wouldn’t date us. as if … as if anyone asked… y’all cis gay people do a great deal of complaining when cis het people feel the need to reinforce their heterosexuality and assume you’re interested in them sexually by default- “sorry, i’m straight! tee hee don’t get a crush on me!” // “we can’t let gay people in changing rooms or they will stare!” and then you turn around and do. the exact same thing to trans people. 
   just because i’m trans and gay it doesn’t mean i’m attracted to every cis gay man that breathes. i can assure you that your genitals are not magnetic, alluring, made of molten gold and irresistible to us disgusting transes.

with all of this considered i’d appreciate not to see any more bullshit posts on my dashboard that imply any of the above stated accusations!!! please and thanks!